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Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle & Teach 11-Year-Old Me Not To Take Sh** From Racists

Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle (2004) is the most important stupid-ass stoner comedy film of the early-2000s. The film was written by Jon Hurwitz and Hayden Schlossberg (American Reunion, Cobra Kai), and directed by Danny Leiner (Dude, Where’s My Car?). Starring John Cho as Harold Lee and Kal Penn as Kumar Patel. The story follows the duo’s iconic misadventure to American fast-food chain White Castle after getting indubitably “not low.” 

I acknowledge off-top that much of this movie is goofy as hell, as it should be. But this film is also groundbreaking, not only subverting its genre but subverting the Hollywood standard for who gets to lead a franchise. I was the only South Asian kid and brown film buff in a deep, dead sea of deeply salty microaggressions and crystal clear racism — with no real resources or vocabulary to express how I was being othered. Now, I’m a goddamn GigaChad with a pretentious enough vocabulary to describe my “deep, dead sea of deeply salty microaggressions and crystal clear racism” line as a whimsical use of thalassic imagery to express the poignant realities of adolescence in the diaspora. Harold & Kumar centers a lot of its comedy on pointing out systemic injustices and microaggressions. Through the film’s humor, in middle school, I was able to understand why the world around me seemed so hostile. 

Throughout the movie, Harold & Kumar confront their bullies and people attempting to take advantage of them. They regularly defy authority. Neither are emasculated or desexualized.

A breakdown of moments from the film that stuck with 11-year-old me, inspiring autonomy and helping me parse my environment.

  • Kumar shrugs off his med school interview, despite being a competent student. In the current space of mainstream Desi American stories, the strict parent / rigid traditional career path trope is a tired one. At the time, it was refreshing to see Kumar’s apprehension towards societal boxes and family pressure. Kumar is the first rebellious Indian kid I saw in western media.
  • Kumar speaks Hindi to communicate with a gas station employee and get directions. The character knowing/speaking his mother tongue is framed as useful and vital. 
  • Kumar later confronts the white “Extreme Sport Punks” who pick on the Indian gas station employee, making fun of his accent and trashing the store.
  • Throughout the film, cops get critiqued for over aggression and racial biases. 
  • The duo attempt to jaywalk on an empty street at night, comically, out of nowhere, a wild cop appears.
  • Kumar stands up to Officer Palumbo abusing his power, which escalates to Harold getting arrested.
  • While in jail, Harold meets Tarik, a Black man falsely imprisoned. 
  • Tarik: You wanna know what happened? I was walking out of a Barnes & Noble, and a cop stops me. Now evidently, a black guy robbed a store in Newark. I told him, “I haven’t even been to Newark in months.” So he starts beating me with his gun, telling me to stop resisting arrest. I kept saying, “I understand I’m under arrest. Now please stop beating me.”

Police brutality and themes of surveillance extend further in the sequel, Harold & Kumar Escape from Guantanamo Bay (2008). Kumar attempts to smoke a smokeless bong on a flight to Amsterdam. An elderly passenger, already cautious of Kumar’s (brown) presence, sees the bong and thinks, “BOMB.” Harold & Kumar are profiled, then apprehended as terrorists. The duo spends the movie on the run from the highly incompetent Deputy Secretary of Homeland Security, who continually jumps to the most extremist conclusions (e.g., that Harold & Kumar are a North Korea Al-Qaeda terrorist tag team).

These films truly are a crash course on blatant American ignorance.

  • Harold & Kumar have another run-in with the Extreme Sport Punks. The punks refer to Harold as Mr. Miyagi, and our duo ends up commandeering the punks’ douche-truck. As they drive off, Kumar yells, “Thank you, come again!” in a thick Indian accent, throwing the stereotypical phrase back at the bullies. 
  • Harold confronts his co-workers who were taking advantage, trying to pile him with all the work while they party. Harold goes off, “You guys think you can just party all weekend and leave all your work to the quiet Asian guy in your office! Huh? … I’m not doing your work anymore.” 

There are a lot of real moments in this stoner flick. You couldn’t do a weed movie starring a Korean and Indian American without their experiences being inherently political. Unfortunately, where the film falters is that like nearly all of 2000s American comedy, Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle suffers from a ton of homophobic jokes I can’t endorse. Suggesting that a character is gay isn’t a punchline. Also, filler-dialogue featuring straight dudes talking about the women they find hot = very cringy. I have no problems acknowledging and having a deep appreciation of the booty, but the way sexual attraction is written in American comedies from this era is just highkey degenerate-worship.

Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle is the first time I saw myself represented in a movie. Two non-stereotypical Asian characters with grounded relatable ambitions, frustrations, and authentic BFF banter were the lead protagonists of a mainstream feature film!? Within a minute of Kumar’s introduction, all of my self-confidence and unfounded belief that I could make movies were validated and fortified. For me, John Cho and Kal Penn served as enough empirical evidence that I could make it in the industry.

Yeah, Harold & Kumar get their car stolen by a horned-up Neil Patrick Harris and ride a stoned cheetah. However, they’re still some of the first legitimately cool non-stereotypical representation we had on-screen — and that was huge for young aspiring filmmakers, creatives, and minority youth coming into their own. 

The Healthy Ways of Shipping

Hello everyone, CuriousCat-13 here to welcome you to what I like to call “The Shipping Corner.” If you’re part of any fandom, you most likely have come across something called a ship, and I’m not talking about the type of vessel that would be used to travel across bodies of water. If you’re not familiar with the term, I’ll give you a quick nutshell explanation. Shipping is basically where you like the idea of two characters being in some type of relationship, the vast majority of the time it’s the idea of them being in a romantic relationship, which leads to some kind of clever name of the ship or pairing.

Some ships can be taken as a small sip of water, however…there are times where a large group ends up chugging an Olympic swimming pool amount of that water, which can lead to another term: Shipping Wars, and this is where things can get very toxic within any fandom. That is where this article comes in play, for me to give a few words of wisdom on how to ship in a healthier manner; not just as a shipper, but someone who is part of a number of fandoms that have become toxic due to shipping. This isn’t me telling you how to ship and who you can and can’t ship, I’m just giving words of advice to help you with shipping and show a more positive side of shippers (for those that don’t ship).

One of the first steps of healthy shipping is asking yourself why you ship these two characters. What made you start shipping them and what kind of future do you picture them having? Is it the way they interact with each other, their chemistry? Or is it because everyone else ships them and because of that pressure you feel like it’s mandatory to skydive onto the shipping bandwagon to be a “true member” of the fandom.

Let me tell you this, just because a bunch of other people ship a certain pair, it doesn’t mean that you have to. Ship whomever you want to, but a the same time, find the reason why. I’ll use one of the most shipped ships out there as an example: Destiel, which is Castiel and Dean from the show (that is sadly on its last season) Supernatural. When I first shipped them, it was mainly because a huge part of the fandom shipped them. Now? I ship them because of how they interact with each other (chemistry), how they look at each other when the other isn’t looking at them, how they react when something bad happens to them (life is at stake or one of them isn’t acting the way they usually do), the sacrifices they made for each other; these are big examples of why I ship them and what I look for when I ship other characters. So try to observe and find various reasons to ship your ship, use what makes a relationship healthy to strengthen your reasoning.

The next big step when it comes to being a healthy shipper is being respectful of what everyone’s ships are. Everyone ships in a different way and has their own tastes, so just be respectful of their opinions; in other words, avoid starting or getting involved with Shipping Wars. Shipping Wars are one of the main causes of gigantic divisions between fans and can lead to extremely devastating outcomes (cyberbullying is a big one); this where numerous fans argue over which ship is better than another, particularly who a certain character is best paired up with.

For those that are in the RWBY community, you know full well about this mess that is going on within the community, especially when I mention these two ships: BlackSun/Eclipse and Bumbleby (pronounced bumblebee). For some reason, when it comes to the shippers in the (or even a non-shipper) RWBY fandom you have to either be a BlackSun shipper or a Bumbleby shipper, liking both seems to be an impossibility; don’t get me wrong there are people who ship either and are respectable with choosing an alternative, but this Shipping War is one of the big reasons why people drop the series. So to summarize this paragraph…just be a decent human being and respect what other people ship and/or don’t ship; you don’t have to agree with each other on who you ship, but just try to respect everyone’s opinion.

Before I wrap this article up with a neat, pink, little bow on top, I’m going to share my final “two cents.” Not everyone is a shipper, I know it may be hard for some to believe this (and I sincerely apologize for the tone you might be reading this part in), but there are members of fandoms that don’t take part in shipping. If you mention any ships that you enjoy to someone and it turns out they don’t do that, please acknowledge their opinion in a mature way and respect it.

I know that I’ve been trying to type this in a more calm, collected manner, but given the severity of this topic, I have to use a more serious tone. Respecting one’s opinion on shipping and the various ships is one of the most important things when it comes to creating a healthy, positive vibe in all fandoms. This also includes the creators of the series and the actors and actresses that play the characters, since maybe a small fraction take part in any shipping, so if you’re at a convention where you get to meet the people that bring your favorites to life….please don’t force your ship or what you think should be down their throats.

I’ve seen too many videos from Supernatural conventions where a number of actors (and actresses) get thoroughly annoyed when fans (that took their shipping of Destiel too far) pester them non-stop about it, thus creating a small rift between them and the fans, not to mention that it can affect how they interact with the friends that they work with in public (i.e. Jensen and Misha).

Another thing to remember is that every member of a fandom, including the shippers, are, in their own way, representing their community. Each and every one of you might be inviting new members to the community, so it’s important to let them take things at their own pace and make their own decisions. You can bring up some of the ships that you enjoy and/or even what is out there, but try to leave it at that in case they are part of the “Not a Shipper” group; remember the important thing to do is respect their choices on whether or not they ship and who they ship (even if you don’t agree with them). 

Now that we’ve gone through all the major points in quite an amount of detail and made it to the end, let’s do a quick recap on how to ship in a healthy way.

  1. Ask yourself: Why do I ship them? What is it about them that gives off a good couple vibe?
  2. Respect the ships of others. Everyone has their own preferences and that’s okay. Even if you don’t agree with their ship or care for that ship, respect their opinion.
  3. Not everyone ships, so don’t force your passion and ideas on them. This also goes for the people that create the series and the actors and actresses that bring the characters to life. 

If you follow these steps bit by bit, it not only can help you find a new, healthier way to enjoy shipping, but it will also help improve the interactions between members of the fandom(s); so practice these three steps and ship on!

Band Decisions: My First Trip | All Ages of Geek

So if you read my bio, I mentioned how I got fired from my band for not wanting to drink or do drugs, and I’d explain it in the future. Well since it is the time of motivation here at All Ages Of Geek, I might as well explain my beginnings in the band all the way to the bitter end but the bright side in all of it.

I’d like to make an immediate disclaimer before we continue and say that I will not be mentioning names and the name of the band and will use false names, as I absolutely do not condone attacking anyone who is currently or used to be in the band as I’ve fully moved on since, and I already slammed the door behind me when the firing happened, so it’s best not to cause any issues as this is old tea that has since expired.

I graduated high school on the 25th of June and got my diploma in two days on the 27th, and I didn’t really have intentions to go to college yet as I wanted to take some time off, but it wasn’t long until my calling happened two weeks after graduation.

I got a message from the lead singer to join his band “Cold Shoulder” as their inaugural bass player, and as an 18-year-old, fresh as hell out of high school who’s been dying to start a band or find one, without hesitation, I joined. My first day of practice was the 16th of July, and the band consisted of Johnny, the lead singer, Andy the guitarist, Roger the drummer, whom I’ll talk about later in the story, and myself, the young bassist. The age gap between the four of us was pretty major since Roger was turning 28 in August, Johnny was turning 25, and Andy I think was turning 23, so from 18 to 28, major gap.

It was a speedy start because the next show the band had, was on the 22nd of July at The Bowery Electric, so I literally had 6 days to learn all of the songs we were performing that night, and add my spin on it to give the band a wholly unique sound for the show, and would you guess it, I nailed it, and the crowd couldn’t believe that an 18-year-old kid, fresh outta high school could play as well as I could. It was a feeling I never experienced before, even though I was in a school band, rocking my five-string and my pre-stickered Thunderbird bass since I was 15, but it was something completely different, as it was a feeling I wasn’t gonna experience again.

August came around, and after a second successful show, we found out that we were gonna record our first singles together, which both are currently still on YouTube, as the songs are “Little Things” and “Back Against The Ropes.” I documented the experience as well on my YouTube channel, and we spent 20 combined hours in the studio working our asses off to make these two songs the best songs ever… but a dark cloud began to loom over while that recording process was being done on day two.

There’s really no way around it, but I got peer pressured into smoking weed. This was from the band, yes, but it was mostly Johnny and his friends who were putting in most of the pressure onto me, even when I was saying no. I just did it so it can shut them up, and that didn’t really help much. After the recording was done, Johnny invited me to his place to watch the GGG vs Canelo 2 fight that went on, and that’s pretty much where I saw his true colors. He wanted me to do more than just weed, as he also had mushrooms, and cocaine, which his comments before he did a line were “this is a big boy’s thing Dio, you’ll be able to do this when you’re older.”

This is where regret started to immediately set in.

We were back to doing shows in October with an acoustic set at The Parkside Lounge, and that was the last time I decided to smoke weed, as I wanted to get a job, but really, I was beginning to rethink my decisions and leave the band some time in the new year, and I was gonna focus on college as I had applied to start going in January. After another successful show at The Bowery Electric in November, we, unfortunately, found out that Andy would be leaving the band after our next show in December, and unfortunately, that was the show where we ended up flopping really hard, due to it being a cold night in Brooklyn, the fact that it was a local coffee shop, and we played last, and no one was there besides one of Johnny’s friends. And after that, haven’t talked to Andy since.

Joey was going to be the new replacement in the band and our new comrade in the band, stepping in for the departure of Andy, and he was a damn good guitarist. He was 20 years old and he was gonna turn 21 in April, and he had one hell of a dedication because he would travel from New Jersey to come to rehearsals, but unfortunately, he was no different than Johnny when it came to drugs and alcohol. The final show I performed in was at Arlene’s Grocery, on the 19th of January, 9 days before I turned 19. Now, footage of this show has since been deleted from the band’s YouTube channel, which I’d assume it’s to erase any existence of me and Jack as he’s no longer part of the band either, but I do have one song on Google Docs that I will be uploading to YouTube, which is the only remaining footage of me being a part of the band.

This show was riddled with issues, from my bass strings not being that good in my honest opinion, the sound guy was simply an idiot, and when I upload the video, my bass was completely inaudible for most of the song. Talk about getting the Jason Newsted treatment. Joey himself said that he wanted to “kick the sound guy’s ass” for messing up his sound, which I advised him not to as it would ruin any opportunity of the band making a second show at Arlene’s. After the show, I went back to Johnny’s place for his little after-party and played Smash with his friend, and this was where I had fully decided that I wasn’t gonna stay in the band anymore, as drugs and alcohol were everywhere. Mushrooms, Coke, Amphetamines, Ecstasy, Acid, Weed, you name it. All we needed was Ketamine and Meth and we’d be in a trailer park hoedown hootenanny in a barn in the middle of Nowhere, Alabama.

I had to make this a little bit funny.

After all the commotion died down, it was pretty much just me, Joey, and one of Johnny’s sisters and Johnny wanted to find someone to have sex with because his sister’s had some sort of argument. Yeah, that just shows why I wanted to bail. After spending an extra half hour at the place, I pretty much told Joey and Johnny’s sister about my bisexuality (which has since shifted to pansexuality), that I never told anyone at the time, and they welcomed me with open arms about it. I decided to leave a bit afterward because, well, Jack wanted to get down and dirty with Johnny’s sister, so basically, bro code, and I didn’t want to break it, so I obliged. Joey’s last words to me before I left were “I love you man, I won’t tell anyone” and I went home after that.

On February 9th, I got fired from the band by Johnny, as he called me and said: “I’m going through a different creative direction, and I’m gonna have to let you go.” Keep in mind, he said “I’m” not “I was talking to Roger” or “I talked to the others” “I’m”. After hearing about getting fired, I told my friends about it and saying how it honestly sucks that I got fired, but I forgot who the friends I told this to were. My friend Randy rather quickly went on to YouTube and voiced his displeasure of Johnny of my firing, criticized his lack of singing abilities and praising the talent that I, along with Roger and Joey had, while my friend Samantha only criticized the audio problems throughout the footage.

Around 11 at night that same time, Johnny called me in a high and/or drunken fit of rage about my friends comments, even going to lengths calling me “a self-absorbent piece of shit” and ridiculing me about my mental health, as I posted stuff on Instagram about my mental struggles, telling me “I’m fucked up in the head, and that I need help” which didn’t help because that plunged me into an even deeper depression knowing that he never cared about me. I’ve since made two posts on Instagram completely exposing him for his actions, as I wanted to speak up about it instead of staying silent about it. I hadn’t said a single bad word about him throughout my time in the band, and I respected him throughout my tenure there, even if the things he did were questionable, that moment where he disrespected me, he had lost all of my respect for him as a musician, a bandmate, and as a person. At this point, I had wanted to give up as a musician, and I was even contemplating on selling my basses. It’s probably the lowest I’ve ever been in my life.

“Hey dude. Sorry about the way shits gone down the past week. For what it’s worth, just wanted to say you’re a damn good bassist/musician. Bands come and go (I’ve been in like 8 myself) but don’t ever stop playing music! A good bass player is hard to come by, so I hope this whole thing doesn’t discourage you.”

Those were Roger’s last words to me in a text he sent me a week after I got fired. To know that he messaged me after all of the hate and anger I had aimed towards both Johnny and Joey, it pretty much made me breakdown knowing that he cared about me, even after I spoke up about what happened. I haven’t spoken to him since as I’ve distanced myself from anyone who associates with the band, but I absolutely respect Roger for being a professional and handling it properly and telling me to not stop playing music. Thanks a ton, Roger, you’re the man.

Since then, I’ve been on a musical hiatus, but my creativity has no boundaries as I do plan to start up a project or two in the future, as I don’t plan on giving up on music. What I’ve learned from this, is be careful in who you trust, because sometimes, that person you look up to can be your worst nightmare. But even through all those issues, not only do you have to enjoy the little things but even when your backs are against the ropes, you’ll have someone by your side, giving you words and encouragement, to never give up on what you love.

My Life With Depression | All Ages of Geek

In this article, I want to write about my life with depression. I hope I can help someone who is in a similar situation. I’ve been struggling since the age of 14, with partial severe depression and anxiety. This depression and anxiety were caused by heavy bullying during my school days. I also got a strong social anxiety disorder from the bullying, which still causes me problems today.

It’s therefore very difficult for me to forge social contacts and friendships. It’s difficult for me to trust other people because I’ve had a lot of bad experiences in trusting other people. I’ve lost all my friends because of my depression, and no one in my family wants to have anything to do with me.

The worst thing is the isolation, the loneliness, the sadness, the feeling of emptiness and meaninglessness. Your negative thoughts can make you crazy and will finally destroy you in the end. Every day is a new challenge not to give up. There are days that are so bad that you don’t want to get out of bed. You just want to disappear and stop existing, so that this horrible feeling finally disappears. It’s difficult to fight if you know that you will lose in the end. I’ll fight until my little heart stop beating. But I also know that maybe it will never get better, but I will not give up.

I’ve gone a long way and can not just give up now. I have a good job and have found a great community that has given me new hope. My biggest problem is that I can’t talk about it. I always act as if I’m happy, but in reality, I’m the opposite. I always try to be friendly and helpful, but inside I scream for help. I’m always there for everyone, but when I’m home alone in the evening, night, and the weekend nobody is there for me. I have no family or friends I’m always alone. It’s a very hard time for me sometimes it is so bad that I don’t want to live anymore.

I know there are many in this community who offer me their help. I’m very grateful to these people, but I don’t want to burden anyone with my problems. There are also good days, not every day is horrible and bad. But after every good day, many bad days follow. The depression is patient because the slidest drop of rain will cause these seeds to sprout. The rain will come and the seeds will sprout. The depression is always with me, it’s in my little heart, it’s in my thoughts, and deep in my soul. My depression follows me wherever I go.

If you suffer from depression and anxiety then talk about it. Believe me, it helps. Go to a psychotherapist, do something that is fun to you. If someone offers you help, then accept the help. Never give up, it will be better again, even if it’s currently very difficult for you. Believe in yourself and please DON’T GIVE UP! Better days will come, believe me. My faith in God always helps me at this time. As long as you have faith in your heart, you’ll never walk alone. God is always with you on your way.

The reason why I wrote this article is, that I want to help anyone who experiences a similar situation. You’re not alone, depression is not a choice.

Fulfilling Your Dreams | All Ages of Geek

In this article, I’d like to tell a little personal story about motivation. How it helped me in a very difficult time of my life, and how important motivation is to achieve your goals and dreams.

In 2007 when I was 14 years old I was heavily bullied in school, I had no friends, and even the teachers were against me. I got depression and severe anxiety, I had reached a point where I saw no future for myself. At my lowest point, I was not able to leave the house or go to school because I had a strong social anxiety disorder. At that time, I was completely down. I lost all my hope, and my whole family was against me. They blamed me for my situation because they could not understand why I had these problems.

They knew about the bullying, but in their eyes, it was all my fault. My uncle even called me a total failure. After being in inpatient for 3 months to treat my depression and anxiety I had a conversation with my grandmother. We talked about my goals, my dreams and about my future. My grandmother then said a sentence that motivates me to this day.

“There will be no one to fulfill your dreams and wishes except yourself.”

This sentence opened my eyes, it gave me new strength, new hope, and above all, I finally believed in a future for me. I’m infinitely grateful to my grandmother, she was the only one who understood me and stood by my side in this difficult time. I finally started to believe in myself, I changed school and tried to make friends. The bullying did not stop, but it was not that bad anymore. I never was the best at school, but the ambition drove me on. I learned and learned because I wanted to be the best and show everyone who didn’t believe in me who I am and what I can.

At the end of my school days, I was one of the best graduates. It would never have happened without my belief in myself, my faith in God, and my ambition to be the best. After my school days, I worked for 2 famous magicians and became a member of the ultra group The Unity. It was a very crazy time but this is a topic for another article . Today I’m an engineering technologist but without the motivation, I got from my grandmother, I don’t know if I would be here today.

This little sentence changed my whole life, it helps me so much to this day. It is important that you always believe in yourself, even in difficult life situations. Never give up on your dreams and if you have the opportunity to fulfill one of your dreams, go for it. Because maybe you get the chance to realize your dream only once in your life. Sure there will be moments where you want to give up, where you have no strength left to continue. But remember why you started, and look how far you’ve come. One day you will look back, you will realize that all the hard work, all the pain, and all the despair have paid off.

Give up only when, NO, NEVER GIVE UP! Work hard, be patient, and fight till your last breath take, your last heartbeat to fulfill your dreams. Remember you are the only one who can fulfill your dreams, GO FOR IT! If you believe in yourself enough and know what you want, you are going to make it happen.


Photography by Tatiana Stec

Bullying Prevention | All Ages of Geek

Bullying is a serious problem in our society. I was bullied for many years, so in this article, I’d like to write about how to deal with bullies and how to help the victims of bullying.

What Can I Do Against Bullying?

Don’t look away if you see that someone is bullied. Be kind to the person being bullied. Show them that you care by trying to include them. Talk to them, invite them to something. Just hanging out with them will help them know they aren’t alone.

How Can I Defend Myself Against Bullies?

Talk to someone about the situation, a teacher, your friends, your parents. You can only get help if you speak about it. The longer you wait, the worse the situation gets, a bully thinks otherwise he can do anything with you. Please Ask For Help! Because a bully is a very weak person, if he knows that you are asking for help he will be scared because he fears the consequences. Don’t make the same mistakes that I made. I was too scared to ask for help because I was afraid of the reaction of the bullies and I was beaten up several times within two years.  In the end, though they can’t do anything to me when I ASK FOR HELP!

Treat everyone with respect, nobody should be mean to others. Stop and think before you say or do something that could hurt someone. Keep in mind that everyone is different, not better or worse, just different. Bullying causes many mental illnesses, it causes depression and anxiety, borderline, paranoia, leads to burnout, and causes many other physical/psychic diseases. Through bullying, I got depression and anxiety, paranoia, two broken ribs, and a broken nose.

Types of Bullying

Bullying does not always happen in person. cyber-bullying is a type of bullying that happens online or through text messages or even emails. There are things you can do to protect yourself. Always think about what you post. You never know what someone will forward. Being kind to others online who will help keep you safe. Do not share anything that could hurt someone. Think about who sees what you post online. Private settings let you control who sees what. If a hater is attacking you ignore him, block him, and report him. DON’T LISTEN TO THE HATER! They are just little cowards who hide behind their screens. They are jealous of your success. Tell yourself:

“Haters don’t hate you, they hate themselves. Because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be“. 

Bullying can cause long-lasting psychological and physical harm to victims. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. Be positive and positive things will happen.